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soooo... what is your honest opinion about black men who straighten/perm their hair?
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...just randomly saw this on a site and thought i'd ask other opinions.
like... i try not to judge people by their cosmetic choices, but I would probably say I have a low opinion on guys who do this and I often wonder -- assume, that it's a self hate thing. i know that i'm probably wrong and that it's not the case for all... but just wanted to know what y'all thought.

(by the way, the guys name is jordan jameson)
 
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TDJ6 said:
soooo... what is your honest opinion about black men who straighten/perm their hair?
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...just randomly saw this on a site and thought i'd ask other opinions.
like... i try not to judge people by their cosmetic choices, but I would probably say I have a low opinion on guys who do this and I often wonder -- assume, that it's a self hate thing. i know that i'm probably wrong and that it's not the case for all... but just wanted to know what y'all thought.

(by the way, the guys name is jordan jameson)
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Well, as a person who has their hair. Fried, dyed and laid to the side. I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Personally, whenever I had a perm or even a weave. Yes chile, I was living and giving Cher and Diana. I wore those things for length because I liked long hair. Though it made me look even shorter than I already am. ❤
 
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I often wonder the reason some black people alter their features to align with those that are not common within the black race. Straight hair, blonde or red hair, colored contacts, etc. I don't find it attractive on us because it stands out in a bad way. I can't say for sure that it's a self hatred thing with everyone. I'd have to know more about the guy to come to that conclusion. If he's a black guy that only performs with white performers and he only surrounds himself with non black people I'd assume he's dealing with some internal issues that concern his race and he might just have some self hatred things going on. Anti-blackness is not just something that others do to black people. Black people promote anti-blackness also because it's been taught and ingrained in us since we are ingrained with the same standards of beauty that are globally pushed. Topics like this are often uncomfortable for those that feel guilty of being affected by it. Some black people rather not talk about stuff like this because they think it will disappear over time but it's the opposite. It will persist and it will only get worse until there is an understanding of why it's happening. On another note i'm starting to find myself turned off by interracial porn. I might be turned on by the actor in the movie but I tend not to notice the other person who is non-black. I am starting to see that the popularity of interracial porn is only furthering this idea that whiteness is something that all people of color should want to obtain and that is anti-blackness. Can anybody else relate? I think I've travelled too far down the rabbit hole on this black male fetishization thing.
 
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In relation to features that are not natural to African and black people, I think we have grown used to see black women with straight hair which is not really a common feature for people with African ancestry. When I see black men or women rocking their natural texture it really brings joy to me. Black men have been told to cut their hair off while black women have been told to straight or cover their own hair. It is finally starting to get challenged as more and more black people are rocking their natural hair texture loud and proud and challenging the system on job discrimination that is often associated with our hair and protective styles.
 
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i just spent waaay too much time making gifs and posting them to a specific thread on here...
only to find out I was posting them in the wrong thread and I had to report ALL the posts! smh
 
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i just spent waaay too much time making gifs and posting them to a specific thread on here...
only to find out I was posting them in the wrong thread and I had to report ALL the posts! smh
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Hey TDJ6: I'm the Moderator who handled all your self-content reports. If you let me know what thread in what forum you want that content moved to, I'll see if I can get it moved for you so your work doesn't have to be recreated. Thanks. B :)
 
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Hey TDJ6: I'm the Moderator who handled all your self-content reports. If you let me know what thread in what forum you want that content moved to, I'll see if I can get it moved for you so your work doesn't have to be recreated. Thanks. B :)
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thanks! it's no big deal... i started a new thread.
 
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i SWEAR i saw a new person post in here today?? I wanted to welcome them but now the post is gone? did i just imagine that lol!!
 
Hey all. I'm kinda curious what you think of some black porn stars.
like... in the straight world Ricky Johnson and in the gay porn world Max Konnor.
do you have an opinion?

I don't know ... sometimes I like to invent personalities or lives for these guys in my head and it probably couldn't be any further from the truth. but you go by interviews and tweets and stuff. but y'all start it off ...

(some other guys I'm curious to get honest opinions on...
Rhyheim Shabazz
Phat Rabbit Killer
Yarddie Style
Aaron Trainer
Adrian Hart...

ALSO, y'all might know something about these guys that I don't know which is another reason I'm curious)
 
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Hey all. I'm kinda curious what you think of some black porn stars.
like... in the straight world Ricky Johnson and in the gay porn world Max Konnor.
do you have an opinion?

I don't know ... sometimes I like to invent personalities or lives for these guys in my head and it probably couldn't be any further from the truth. but you go by interviews and tweets and stuff. but y'all start it off ...

(some other guys I'm curious to get honest opinions on...
Rhyheim Shabazz
Phat Rabbit Killer
Yarddie Style
Aaron Trainer
Adrian Hart...

ALSO, y'all might know something about these guys that I don't know which is another reason I'm curious)
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I'm not too familiar with most of the pornstars of today. Especially if they are considered mainstream. I kind of lost interest in mainstream porn that includes black actors for the simple fact that mainstream porn continues to push certain narratives about black people, specifically black men. A lot of the black male pornstars contribute to pushing those narratives but I can't necessarily fault them because for them it's their way of surviving because it's their job. Whether it's straight or gay porn, I've been noticing the trend of pairing black male pornstars with white actors and to me that's anti-black. Max Konnor is one name that sticks out because he started out doing "urban" porn which is just really porn that has an all black cast and when he was starting out in that porn he was strictly a bottom twink. He bulked up with muscles and the mainstream gay production companies saw an interest in him because he fit the idea of what they needed for a black dominant top. Now you see Max Konnor only performing with white actors and now he's always the top. A lot of those actors are pretty much doing the same. Even Rhyheim Shabazz is trying to maneuver into a mainstream audience but at least he shows more diversity which isn't an issue. It's when they completely go the opposite way to appeal to only one specific demographic that is the issue. I think representation should be across the board and that includes showing black men in the submissive role and other races of men in the dominant role. Mainstream porn companies don't do this because white audiences don't want to see it. They'd rather see black men as the sexual aggressors because there is some taboo fetishism involved in those portrayals.
 
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wanted to share this youtube channel I found about a month ago... Black Gay History Channel.
https://www.youtube.com/@blackgayhistorychannel

he talks about gay singers, actors and porn stars. honestly the videos are pretty short... BUT I think we should all go and subscribe.
 
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wanted to share this youtube channel I found about a month ago... Black Gay History Channel.
https://www.youtube.com/@blackgayhistorychannel

he talks about gay singers, actors and porn stars. honestly the videos are pretty short... BUT I think we should all go and subscribe.
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Thank you for sharing this and I just subscribed to the channel.
 
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TDJ6 said:
wanted to share this youtube channel I found about a month ago... Black Gay History Channel.
https://www.youtube.com/@blackgayhistorychannel

he talks about gay singers, actors and porn stars. honestly the videos are pretty short... BUT I think we should all go and subscribe.
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Thank you for sharing his channel. I'm highly interested in his content and will be binge watching his videos.
 
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TDJ6 said:
hey guys!
just saying hey to keep this thread alive lol!

have any of you spent time in germany? i'm curious what you're experience out there as a gay black man was. something about germany (berlin) is calling my name right now and I don't really know why lol!
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I'm sooo late to the party that is "Gay 40+ Hung & Black! Let's Talk!" and I must say BRAVO TDJ6 for creating this thread.

I am soon to be 42 in the coming weeks and I must say after 40 something definitely shifted for me entirely. I am without a doubt not the same person I was at 35, 36 or even 39. So thank you for bringing it to the thread and sharing your feelings with the other gentlemen.

I am a pretty blunt, in your face and jovial person and I don't really care too much of what others think of me. I've had to deal with some pretty shitty situations but I am still standing. So hopefully, I can bring some good discourse based on my experiences but also an opportunity to connect with other BLACK men and learn and connect with.

Regarding Germany... I have not been YET! But being a very sexual being, it is on my top list of places to visit along with Maspalomas in the Gran Canaria. For the obvious reasons lol. Full disclosure, I am not a touristy type. I could give a bag of fucks about centuries old buildings and museums. But don't write me off as some materialistic philistine (I was flight attendant many moons ago). I merely want to go to have complete, unadulterated and filthy sex. I want to experience the club Berghain and see if I can get in! I wanna live my entire "Dawson's 50 Load Weekend" life there lol!

I have multiple friends who have been and they all tell me the same thing, "GO"! Though, I prefer to travel alone now being in my 40's, I still feel I need a travel buddy b/c I am kinda geographically stupid. Like, if I were cast on the "The Amazing Race" I would definitely go home the first episode for probably taking a flight to New Mexico instead of Mexico City, no joke... I get lost all the time. LOL
 
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what do you guys think of my art?
I'm hoping to do a bunch and maybe sell them to gay clubs/baths/all male resorts... but I guess I could sell them to whoever. idk. Honestly it's kinda just a hobbie for me at this point... i have such little self-worth I wouldn't even know how to price these.
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I'm impressed! Is this line drawing with pencil or utilizing some computer program? You should definitely offer self portraits! I would actually like to be immortalized naked in a drawing, like that old lady from the movie Titanic!
 
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SO... how come when I ask stuff like this online it's always crickets?

how do you guys all find "community" online?
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Lmaooo... Because they don't know or shy away from possibly offending you!

Try https://breeding.zone/ I am not 100% sure where you are located in the US but this is a good start, they have a forum with regional listings. Findacumdump.com, bestcumdumps.com, bestcumdumphotels.com and cumdumpcalendar.com if that is your bag...

Also, BBRT, AssPig, Recon, CumUnion and BateWorld (There are forums for them all). Freak Twitter is your friend and a HUGE help, I would follow anything PIG-related: i.e., cumdumpnetwork, BBRT etc...

A lot of the gay torrent sites also have forums and list many events in various locales. gaytor.rent - Your favorite adult tracker

Again, freak twitter is a huge help because most regional/cities have private events that cater to a specific niche or kink. All it takes is a lil asking around.

Of course worse case scenario (and not necessarily worse by any means) create your own event! Now I love and admire the Onyx brothers more than you can imagine, BUT there is a lack of actual sex positive events that they host (though there may be some regulation regarding that, I am not 100% sure.) Nonetheless, there is obviously a need for it considering the disgusting ignorance of our community on Twitter last week regarding the live sex show in NYC involving Pablo Strokes. Needless to say, creating that space would be admirable and more than likely creatively satisfying for you as well.
 
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TDJ6 said:
soooo... what is your honest opinion about black men who straighten/perm their hair?
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...just randomly saw this on a site and thought i'd ask other opinions.
like... i try not to judge people by their cosmetic choices, but I would probably say I have a low opinion on guys who do this and I often wonder -- assume, that it's a self hate thing. i know that i'm probably wrong and that it's not the case for all... but just wanted to know what y'all thought.

(by the way, the guys name is jordan jameson)
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To quote my Mama, "If you don't have nothing nice to say then don't say shit at all..." I'll just leave it at that.
 
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